We fast and pray asking for the Lord to bring healing in our times: for men to be bold and to walk in to relationships with women, for women to be soft and willing to be molded by God’s gracious plan in their lives, and for God to give the good gift of marriage to those who desire it.
When I moved to Florida I thought I would love the year-round summer and never miss the other seasons. While I loved looking outside and seeing palm trees, I did find myself missing the seasons. Like the beginning of spring when you can roll down your car windows for the first time and the flowers and trees start to bud. I also missed leaves changing color in fall and snow days in winter. Florida only has winter indoors with the air conditioning turned to subzero temperatures. I used to joke that Florida seasons were just degrees of heat (hot, HOT, and hotter).
I eventually left the heat of Florida and returned to the land of seasons. Some may think I’m crazy for moving away from the Sunshine State, but for me the seasons were beckoning (among other things). There is just something about the change of seasons… a range of temperatures, new wardrobe options, different outdoor activities, scenery variations, and the list could go on. I like seasons!
It’s popular these days to talk about life in terms of seasons. Perhaps the writer of Ecclesiastes started it and then The Byrds put it to music with:
To everything (turn, turn, turn)
There is a season (turn, turn, turn)
And a time to every purpose, under Heaven
A season for this and a season for that, turn, turn, turn! Here is my deal, I have an issue with using the idea of seasons when discussing certain aspects of life. It’s not that I think the writer of Ecclesiastes was off his rocker and missed hearing from God on the seasons thing, because there is a “time to every purpose, under Heaven.” I struggle with referencing singleness and marriage in terms of seasons. Like you are in your single season of life and when you get married that’s the married season. Using the word season, implies a change is coming, that the status is temporary, and has a start and stop point. Singleness has a starting point for everyone, birth, but may not have an ending point for everyone. Marriage has a starting point, but should not be thought to have an ending point, ya know the whole “until death us do part” thing. So to refer to singleness and marriage as seasons is not really correct.
I think the seasons changing in Ecclesiastes is a direct reference to the word “purpose.” I may be single for my entire life, but my purpose in life will go through changing seasons as my vocation, geographic location, relationships, involvement in church, and other aspects of life evolve and flux through the ages. I spent a season of my twenties involved in youth ministry, my purpose during that time was directly related to my vocation. I’ve had seasons of clarity and seasons that were cloudy, seasons of feeling super connected to God and seasons when I struggled to hear Him, and times when my purpose was clear.
There is a season that is changing. The FastPray blog has served a season of nearly 9 years, but it is time for a change. Fasting and praying is definitely not for a season, and we hope everyone out there continues to seek God through fasting and prayer. It’s through our prayer times and in consultation with former FastPray writers that Amy and I, as the remaining writers, have felt led to end the FastPray blog. We love the community this blog has gathered, and have been encouraged by you. I know for me, it’s time to take a break from thinking and writing about singleness for a while. Writing about singleness and sharing my thoughts with this community has been a pleasure and a privilege, but it means that I’m always thinking about singleness and what I’m going to share with the FastPray community. I need some time to not have to think about singleness as my primary identifier.
We will continue writing and sending out posts through the end of July. While we understand this may come as a shock to some, we hope that you understand this decision was not taken lightly. As we share our parting words over the next several weeks, know that you will continue to be in our prayers long after we stop appearing in your inbox.
A time for every purpose, under Heaven!