On Mondays, we normally pray and fast for God to raise up men, to soften women, and to give the gift of marriage to those who desire it. This particular Monday, we are not fasting because we are celebrating an answer to prayer for our fellow writer, Emily.
Emily got married this past weekend to a wonderful man, and today, we are celebrating the fact that God answers prayers in ways that we don’t expect.
If you’re looking for something to read, here are two great articles that we’ve read recently that were encouraging.
I am 33 and single. I have wanted to be married for as long as I can remember. As I’ve struggled to come to terms with the prospect of lifelong singleness, I’ve joined the chorus of others who desire marriage who ask, “If God wants me to be single, why hasn’t he taken away my desire for marriage?” …
The Bible tells us that we are aliens and strangers in this world. A single person knows what it feels like to live as an odd man out in a couple’s world. Why not glorify God by acknowledging that alienation while asking him to make you less at home in the world? Why not live a chaste life with the knowledge that you are embodying God’s will for his church as we fast and wait for our Bridegroom? Why not continue to pray for a spouse, even as you join in the words of the Spirit and the Bride who cry, “Come, Lord Jesus, come!”
In recent essays, Rachel Lu, Angela Miceli, Ana Samuel, and Elizabeth Corey have grappled with how women can manage the competing demands of career and family. This is indeed a thorny problem, and one that is much discussed. However, there is another problem faced by women today: how do I live as a single woman? …
Remaining unmarried, even if it is less your decision than a decision made for you by circumstances, can be beneficial. Just because all goods are good doesn’t mean you can pursue them all. You have to prioritize them. Not marrying frees us to pursue at least three goods: the good of religion, the good of knowledge (and career, which is sometimes related to knowledge), and the good of friendship. We can see all of these goods actualized in the great religious communities of the Middle Ages and in figures such as St. Thomas Aquinas and Hildegard von Bingen.
This is particularly true for women, on whom the blessing and duty of childbearing and rearing fall most heavily. Marriage can be a path to holiness, but so can the single life…
We will return to our normal schedule of fasting and praying next week!
The Fast Pray Team