Monday, we are fasting and praying together for marriage for those who desire it, for godly men to be leaders in relationships and in the church, and for the Lord to soften and turn our hearts toward Him.
There’s a statement I’ve heard on several occasions that I can’t get out of my mind when I think about fast.pray.:
“It’s the areas of your life where you’ve been hurt the most where God can use you the most.”
I don’t think I need to describe to any of you the hurt that accompanies being single. We’ve talked about our struggles with shame, with doubt, with jealousy, with fear. We’ve been through break-ups, through interrogations from well-meaning parents and friends about why we are still single, through bad first dates, and through no dates.
I’ve always thought that if you were single, you were supposed to be constantly busy in ministry, and I’ve felt guilty for not doing more. Lately, I’ve realized that being single can be ministry:
- It’s fasting and praying through Monday lunch for marriages and changed hearts.
- It’s comforting a friend who’s gone through a break-up because I can relate.
- It’s sitting next to that new girl who comes to church by herself because I know how intimidating it can be to walk into church alone.
- It’s getting a chance to share my faith with a coworker who opened up to me about his loneliness and asked how I’ve dealt with mine.
Someone once told me, “You do singleness so well.” I still don’t know what that means or if I should be offended by it, but I realize that through allowing me to experience being single and all that goes with it, God has been building a more caring, compassionate me who can testify of the work He has done in my heart. That’s how I define doing singleness well.
This week as you fast and pray, realize that you are part of a ministry – the ministry of intercession and caring for others – and pray that you will do singleness well.