Reminder: On Mondays, we’re fasting and praying. We’re asking God to move and bring about marriage for those who desire it. In our prayers, we praying for God embolden men to be leaders: in churches, homes, and relationships. We are also asking that the Holy Spirit would be working in the hearts of women to soften their hearts and transform them into the image of Christ.
Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.
2 Corinthians 3:17
I’m not going to lie. Not to you, and I’m pretty sure what I’m about to tell you… you already know. I spend a lot of time thinking about when I might actually meet a guy who might notice me.
I had a chance to meet a new guy last week at a Bible study. My friend said he was really nice, and when I met him, he seemed like a pretty nice guy, but as often is the case, he’s already got his eye on someone else.
Year after year. Month after month. Day after day. It gets hard to not just be super cynical, but thankfully, God hasn’t abandoned my heart or yours to Satan’s favorite standby for single women everywhere—bitterness. Jesus offers us something else.
2 Corinthians says that where the Spirit of the Lord is… there’s freedom. If you know Christ, you’ve got His Spirit, and so, you are free. As I let that truth seep into the cracks and crevices of my wounded heart, I was struck by the powerful reality of that freedom.
I don’t know about you, but when some well-meaning person comments on my singleness, they always point to my “freedom” as this great virtue. “You can travel. You can take a pottery class. You can drive a hot, 2-seater convertible because you don’t have to carry a diaper bag and giant multi-baby stroller.”
To me, and to many of you, that version of “freedom” really just means alone. I come home alone. I make dinner alone. I have to plan my own birthday celebrations. I sleep alone. Thankfully, in God’s economy, freedom doesn’t mean alone.
Freedom in Christ means:
You are free from sin, from addiction, from guilt, and death. Obvious, but true. His blood has paid the price for this ultimate freedom.
You are free from the court of public opinion. Let’s get real for a second. Christians and non-Christians alike judge the unattached. Christians judge unmarried women as somehow being deficient or lacking some essential quality. Non-Christians judge you for not having sex. But, in Christ, you are free from judgment. Jesus approves of you because you’re His, and He is happy with you. He thinks you’re fantastic, even while disciplining you.
You are free from cultural pressure. You are free from both sides of the cultural war. You are free from familial expectations to marry (and have babies), and you’re free from the feminist ideal of careerism. You may feel some level of shame before your family about your marital status. Maybe your extended family asks you about it whenever you see them or maybe they’ve stopped asking because they think it’s hopeless. You also don’t have to be career-driven or obsessed about climbing some ladder laid out before you.
Christ has paved the way for your peace and contentment. Own your freedom from expectations, and instead, live in light of the grace He extends to you.
Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For, what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
2 Corinthians 4:16-18