Reminder: we are fasting and praying during lunch on Monday for men to have courage to walk upright and into relationship, for women to have courage to see where we need to change and to change, and marriages for those who desire it.
At church this morning, our pastor continued a sermon series on the folks mentioned in Hebrews 11. This week we focused on Abel and verse 4; the one short verse says quite a lot about the role of Abel’s faith in life and death. Our pastor reminded us that it is only by faith that we and Abel are first, made righteous before God, second, able to offer acceptable worship to God, and third, leave faithful legacies beyond our time on earth.
Thinking about faith in terms of my singleness made me ask myself if I’m really walking this singleness path by faith. Am I believing in faith that God is able to provide for my needs (Phil. 4:19)? Am I trusting that He withholds no good thing from those who fear Him (Psalm 84:11)? Am I confident He knows the plans He has for me (Jer. 29:11)? Am I resting in the reality that His love is unfailing and His timing is perfect (Psalm 32:10)?
I had to admit that so often the answer is no. Instead of faith, my instant reaction is do something (anything!) to fix the “problem.” So no one has asked me out in a while, or a good first date doesn’t turn into a second date? Time for a closet overhaul! Time to go speed dating with the girls! Time to reactivate that match.com subscription! Time to join that rec volleyball league! Time to facebook friend that guy from that party!
This is not to say these actions would always be wrong, but when they flow from a place of, “Well, God…since you haven’t shown up here, guess I’m going to have to make this happen myself.” — well, I think it’s a sign of something deeper. The ironic thing is that my singleness isn’t the problem to God; my lack of faith is. While I’m actively trying to eradicate my singleness, He’s looking at my heart.
So as we fast and pray tomorrow, let’s remember that this journey is not one of “fix it now!” but about walking by faith in a God who, at great cost to Himself, loves sinners like us. His goals for us are not our imagined ideal circumstances or moral self-improvement. Rather, He’s in the business of transforming broken, self-reliant, self-centered people into whole, live-by-faith, eyes-on-God people. His unfailing love calls us to stop striving and rest in faith in Him, and that is a glorious place to spend our Monday lunch hour!
By His grace,