Reminder: We fast on Mondays at lunch (or longer) to ask that God would raise up godly, courageous men to move toward relationship, that He would show us where we need to change, and that He would grant marriages to those who desire them.
I love this blog. There is freedom in coming together to pray, encourage, and stand with each other in the arena of singleness. We’ve wrestled together with loneliness, lust/sex, and ultimately, God’s goodness. Sometimes, in my prayers and in my internet surfing, I lose myself in my personal pain and disappointment that I feel about my love life, and I forget the spiritual war being waged on God’s good design of marriage, family, and sexuality.
I recently watched a video lecture from Mark Regnerus, an associate professor of sociology at the University of Texas. I won’t even link to the video here, because I honestly don’t want you to watch it. Regnerus spoke about how it is “socially more difficult—not just personally more challenging—to withhold sex before marriage.” Throughout the lecture, he spoke quite frankly and openly about how, as women were liberated sexually, men no longer have to pay the high price of commitment and marriage to have sex.
The video was downright depressing. I felt deflated and suddenly thought, “Ok, that’s it. It’s impossible for anyone to get married without paying the price of pre-marital sex.”
As soon as that thought left my head, I was filled with an unspeakable encouragement.
Is this situation any more impossible than Sarah, the old grandma, having a baby?
Is hoping in the middle of this cultural trap any more difficult than Ruth hoping in the God of Israel for her future?
Is trusting God harder for us than it was for Mary, who was told she would conceive a child by the Holy Spirit?
I was reminded on a grand scale that the God we serve is more powerful than cultural trends. He cares more than my tiny mind can comprehend about sexual brokenness. And, He ultimately is working all things out for His glory and our good. I have no idea what that looks like for you individually or the church at-large, but, all the while, we can walk bravely and pray boldly.
Looking at the numbers—whether it’s the ratio of eligible men to women in your social circle or how few abstinent individuals there are on the planet—can be incredibly disheartening, but we cannot live there. (Well, in reality, we probably are all there at some point, and some of you are there now.) But, your heart cannot dwell there and still keep beating.
Today, we as we pray, let’s turn our gaze away from the numbers and to our one, real, life-giving hope: the risen savior, Jesus Christ.
Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom also we have obtained our introduction by faith into this grace in which we stand; and we exult in hope of the glory of God. And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope; and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us. (Romans 5:1-5)